Friday, February 27, 2009

I need YOUR advice...

...with sleeping issues. Yes, this weekend I plan on solving all of them! Avery had been a great sleeper, sleeping all night in her crib on most nights, before teething! Since then, to make a very long story short, it has been rough. Currently, I have started a bad habit. Most nights I rock her to sleep, lay her in the crib and sneak away very quietly. Then, any time between 11pm and 4am she cries. I try rocking her to sleep and it works and then I will rock her a while after that to be sure, but the minute I lay her back in the crib and walk away - before i get back to my bed -she's crying again. After doing that 3 times in a row and looking at the clock knowing that my alarm will go off at 4:45 on the dot either way - I give in to letting her come to bed with me, and Charlie is banished to the twin bed in her room. There has been a night or two where we were both so tired he just stayed, but Avery snuggles right up against him b/c he is a human heater and he gets worried he's going to squish her - yikes! So, as easy as it is, and as much as I love her snuggles, I know it's not the best thing for her or for us. I'm starting my plan to get her to sttn in her crib tonight. Please say a prayer for her and leave me some great advice on how to do this!


In other news, Charlie may have a job opportunity to go back to the company he used to work for - which happens to be where I work as well - as a supervisor. There are so many things to think about with this, that I get overwhelmed and want to stop thinking about it altogether. My main concern is having to put Avery in daycare. I do want her to get some social interaction with other people and babies her age after RSV season either way, but I don't know if putting her in daycare 8 hours a day is really what I was looking for. On the other hand, actually getting to spend time together as a family every night would be great! Please pray that God will give us peace with the right decision, which may also mean taking our house off the market for the time being, and mainly that God's will will be done. I know that prayer changes things. And if ya don't believe me...just feast your eyes on little Avery just one year ago...WOW, the power of prayer!








7 comments:

Penny said...

I don't know about breaking her from sleeping with you, mine have never slept in the bed with us, except Shelbi a few times when she had a fever. Look up Super Nanny's advice on that one. No joke, I like a lot of her tips on the show, but haven't watched in a while. Same storyline each time... bad kids, weak parents, but the advice was good. Some of her discipline tips worked on Steph's boys when nothing else did. Wish she'd been around when mine were little. lol
I did have a "possible" daycare solution. Some hospitals have daycares for their employees and let children from the public come, too. They may be more concerned about infection control than a regular one. And didn't you say one time that your company offers one. If they do, that would allow you to check on her at lunch. Also, check with church daycares. They're usually the best. Like the one Jonah goes to.
Don't know if any of these suggestions are new to you, or if they'll work. Just thought I'd try to help.

Curran said...

If you find a solution to get Avery to sleep in her crib all night, please share. Although, I do believe my case may be more difficult, since we've been co-sleeping since birth. Not to mention I hold her in my arms for every, yes every, nap. I've read NCSS (No Cry Sleep Solution) & Ferber (Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems). We can talk about both this weekend.

Daycare - remember that you have some time to use at the back-up center if you need it. It's better than just jumping at the first daycare/sitter you find. Don't forget to call FUMC & FC on Monday. I know my name was #21 on the waiting list for FUMC last July & they projected summer of 2009 before a spot would be open.

Beth E. said...

Oh, sweetie, I'll be praying about Avery's sleeping issues AND about your hubby's job. It's been so many years ago since my boys were babies...I don't know if I would be any help. I did the same thing you did with our first baby. I was exhausted. So, we started putting him in bed when he was drowsy, but BEFORE he was asleep. We were prepared to hear him cry for HOURS. He cried about 5 minutes and that was it! With our second baby we knew better. We never rocked him to sleep. We rocked him plenty of times, but always put him in bed awake.

The thing that worked for us all through our boys' childhood was having a nighttime schedule and following it consistently. Kids find comfort in routine. Every night, after dinner, was bathtime, followed by reading a book, saying prayers, hugs & kisses, then bedtime. Their bedtime started at 7:30 p.m. when they were babies/toddlers, then 8:00 p.m. in the early years of school, then 8:30 p.m., etc. In high school, bedtime on school nights is 10:00 p.m. We've stuck strictly to this schedule and we've never had problems getting them to bed. It's been inconvenient at times, especially when we're out somewhere and have to rush home for them to go to bed, but it's worth it. They were always secure in the routine and well-rested...and so were WE!

Good luck!

Cristi said...

Maybe you could see about going part time when Charlie starts. ??? Hope the sleep things goes ok. We are praying.

Cristi said...

Have you been reading this blog. She is going through the same thing with the sleep. http://oliviaandlogan.blogspot.com/2009/02/success.html

melanie, aka Mo said...

You KNOW I am not the one to ask. Ellie is, and always has been, piled up in the middle of me and Todd every night! Gabbi was never interested. She loves her crib! But.... how's the being on the toes thing going? Just curious if it seems to be resolving. Melanie

LucieP said...

My 8 yr old had to be rocked to sleep (At least I felt like he had to) and my 1 yr old just gets laid down...we walk away...sometimes he cries for a lil while, sometimes he doesn't.

I would try to keep her outta the bed so you both can get some sleep. What does she do for her naps???